Trading Places

Dear Boudoir Diary, You would think that after five years of great sex with my partner that we’d have each other figured out by now, but recently he told me that he likes a bit of aggression in bed and that’s why our sex life has been stagnant.

Can’t Stop Cheating

HELP! OMG what’s wrong with me!? I have a man who I really do love and have been with him for years. However, sometimes I sneak and geek with one of my toxic exs like a oil change every couple of months but I feel bad cause my man don’t deserve that. So I invested in sex toys recently but my man is now upset about it is something wrong with me?

Can’t Stay Wet

Alright I just feel I need to give a little background on my question. I started using contraceptives at a vital point during puberty, at the age of 17. The problem was I would go on my period for maybe 3 “normal” days and then spot for 2 days. I told my mom this and it worried her and we went to a Dr and prescribed depo. I don’t know why exactly. So I wouldn’t be on my period for 3 months and around then I started having sex. I would get orgasms, but I also didn’t get wet (I used lube). So eventually I got off that contraceptive after a year and moved to the pill, then stopped all together. At age 23 I fell pregnant twice and had an abortion both times.

Waiting For Marriage

Hi. My boyfriend and I waited 7 years to finally have sex. Since we are getting married in a few months we decided we would do it soon. I have not had sex before and it will be my first time. I’m not worried but I have been looking forward to this day for a long time.

A RelationSHIT!

Dear Boudoir Diary, I’m in a complicated shit show of a relationshit. I have been falling more and more out of love with this man for months. He is a beautiful black man, single dad, very active in his daughter life, but he is a liar and I’m so tired of forgiving him for the lies and I’m so tired of his games. We got together a few months ago in September. I asked him about his last relationship (he was married to the mother of his child and then they separated when she decided to leave him after about 2 years of marriage.) When we began the relationship they were still waiting for the divorce to finalize which just happened a few weeks ago in January. I asked him was there any chance of them getting back together or still having feelings for each other and he got very angry by the question and said he hated her. Red flag.

Ready for Anal

I want to try anal… but, I hear that you have to loosen your muscle first. What’s some advice for a newbie?

Funky PMS Odor

I want to know if strong odor before and after periods is normal. I’ve been having strong discharge.

Kink Exploration

How do I figure out new kinks to try and how do I introduce them to my partner without making him feel insecure and without feeling insecure?

Masturbation Shame

I feel a bit of shame before and while I masterbate…. how can I get rid of this feeling ?

So What Are We?

I recently connected with a high school of mine and we shared common interests from food to life choices. We’re friends but I want to ask him what exactly are we doing without complicating things between us.